The human was born into this world with zero skills and knowledge but eventually learnt from his surroundings over time. We, as humans, are capable of learning and unlearning behaviours. We are asked and expected to nurture and grow the good habits and stop and eliminate the bad. But how does the human learn? Learning is a continuous process, it solely depends on the environment and people we are exposed to the majority of our time, especially in the early years of life – our childhood. We tend to understand things from our surroundings and apply them within our lives and that is how we learn.
Hence, it is extremely important to know our surroundings because what we see, we learn. In other words, it is always a good idea to expose yourself and your kids to the best environment. Right now, at this age where we can read this entire article with interest, I’m guessing we’re quite past our childhood, but it’s never a bad decision to learn a few things that’ll help you succeed in various aspects of life.
Nature can be our best teacher. Exposing ourselves to the calm, serene world of plants can instil in us core values like patience, compassion and strength. We often find maintaining relationships with other human beings getting harder as we grow up. We complicate things which eventually ruins our bond with our loved ones. By looking at plants who very effortlessly yet intricately build their relationship with various elements of nature and sync together in harmony will help us apply the same in our lives to build good relationships with other fellow human beings. People who spend their time with plants by nurturing them seem to have higher compassion and empathy.
Since we all are involved in one type of relationship or another, we should consider learning a thing or two from nature’s finest. Here are a few qualities regarding relationships we can learn from plants that we can positively apply in our lives:
Time is essential for growth
Plants grow from a tiny seed into a beautiful completely grown structure that is capable of synthesizing and producing oxygen. Before the plant completely develops, it goes through various stages of development which take time to successfully process. Each stage in the growth of the plant is extremely necessary; rushing through the process of growth will give rise to dysfunctional plants that are not capable of giving its best. Similarly, relationships do require time to develop into strong and resilient bonds that are based on the foundation of trust and understanding. These relationships that bloom over time are unlikely to break easily.
Care and conditioning within boundaries is necessary
Just planting a few seeds in the soil will not do the job of growing a beautiful, healthy plant. The seeds need to be nurtured with an adequate amount of water, sunlight and minerals. Let’s keep in mind, too much of those will also destroy the plant. Similarly, a one-time effort in a relationship doesn’t work to build a strong, unbreakable bond. You need to keep nourishing the bond with love, care and affection from time to time but also remember to give yourself and your loved ones the space they require. Too much of anything is still bad. Like the roots of a plant that grow slowly by absorbing all the nutrients into a strong foundation that firmly holds on to the soil, relationships must also be allow to grow slowly, one step at a time.
You learn more about a person by listening rather than by talking
Sometimes we are in such a hurry to speak our views and opinions that we often forget to listen and understand the other person’s point of view. The plants teach us to listen and observe to understand better. Since plants don’t speak you spend more time trying to listen to their voiceless sound to make out if they are happy or sad. You try to figure out if they are overwater or underwater by observing the leaves and learn more about what makes them grow bright and to full potential and what slows them down.
Similarly, by just listening and observing people. You will be able to learn their moods – what makes them happy, sad, angry and excited. Just like we provide endless selfless love to plants, so we have to with humans. By understanding their emotions and feelings. We will be able to give them wholesome and selfless love and attention that will help build a healthier relationship.